“The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the great virtues to which we all should aspire. Imagine a world filled with individuals willing both to apologize and to accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who possessed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either — or both — when needed?” Gordon B. Hinckley
Recent events in my life as well as current world events got me to thinking about forgiveness and how the lack of it has festered into a boil on the ass of life. And while I will not pretend that I am “Mr. Forgiving,” the last few months of reading and watching various “New Age” articles and videos has opened my eyes to a weakness that has plagued humanity for the longest time. We have failed to see the forest through the trees in regards to forgiveness of those who have wronged us, hurt someone we love, or sinful actions involving complete strangers we know nothing about.
I was just reading a post over at ChannelingErik that discussed the channeling of Ted Bundy. Just the mention of that name might bring up bad memories for some and invoke very powerful and negative emotions towards him. It was clear after reading some of the comments that a lot of people could not even see this person as a human being nor could they forgive him for what he’d done. However, I think this affords all of us the opportunity to take a deeper look into life’s lessons and the experiences we all came here to have.
“When we forgive evil we do not excuse it, we do not tolerate it, we do not smother it. We look the evil full in the face, call it what it is, let its horror shock and stun and enrage us, and only then do we forgive it.” Lewis B. Smedes
It is my belief and the belief of many others that we are all one; all of us are just mere drops of water in the vast ocean of consciousness. We all harbor the love of God within ourselves and we are all an extension of that source energy, from the most loving and compassionate to the most deplorable individuals. Each distinct soul incarnated to this third dimensional reality for a purpose. What that purpose is depends on the soul, but each of us came here to have experiences, nothing more, nothing less. Furthermore, these experiences shouldn’t be viewed as positive or negative just as life lessons helping each soul towards absolute enlightenment.
The ego is what compels us to place judgment on those we feel deserve it. Let’s face it, when we hear or read about the unscrupulous acts of some greedy banker or scumbag politician it’s easy to conjure up anger and resentment towards these people. Look at the outrage that’s consumed the entire nation over the George Zimmerman/Trayvon Martin incident. Truth is, the majority of Americans don’t even know all the facts of the case and should not be placing judgment on either of those individuals. For all we know there was a spiritual contract established between these two souls to facilitate some learning experience for one or both. It just goes to show how easy it is to watch the news and immediately think we are in a position to point fingers.
When we choose to step back and look at the big picture we realize this reality we are all living in is nothing more than a pursuit of experiences. If we can set the ego aside and look through our Spirit Goggles we begin to understand there are no true victims and perpetrators, just souls having experiences. And the sooner we learn not to hold onto hate and judgment the quicker we will realize the ultimate peace forgiveness can bring. For many of us there will never be a definitive test of forgiveness; imagine those who have personally experienced a horrific crime against themselves or someone they love, perhaps then you might look at your own grievances towards others and realize how trivial these have been.
Learning to forgive unconditionally is not an easy task. However, if we can start to accept that we are all connected to the source energy and to each other, the awareness that life is a vast ocean of amalgamated consciousness will permeate into our hearts. We will begin to understand our place as droplets of water in this ocean and learn acceptance and forgiveness for all.
I have never had to experience something so horrific that I could not forgive the wrongdoer, and I hope I never do. That isn’t to take away the significance of my personal experiences, but rather to shed light that all of life’s events happen for us to learn from, what really matters is how we respond. If we have been wronged or feel the temptation to place judgment on someone regarding an event we must do our best to forgive and forget. If we see these offenders as well as their victims as souls here to learn from an experience it might make the injustice and suffering a little easier to comprehend. If we are to ascend to the higher dimensional realms we have to let go of this 3rd dimensional egotistical way of thinking. Just let it go.