Written by Todd | Channelingmyself on February 17th, 2012

Hello to all my blog readers today is my 40th birthday.  I wanted to take a moment to first thank each of you for taking the time to read my posts and a special thanks to all of you who provide feedback with your comments.  To be honest, I never would have guessed that at this point in my life I would be a “New Age” enthusiast let alone having a blog that deals with those topics.  For those who know me best they can tell you that I am a quiet guy who doesn’t go out of his way to share personal information, opinions and beliefs.  Which is why having this blog comes as a surprise especially since I have always dreaded having to write anything.  Those close to me can also attest that for the better part of my life I was into organized religion which is why having some of my beliefs now is definitely a shocker.  And while I have no real regrets at this point in my life there certainly have been many lessons learned, some the hard way.

If there was one lesson or piece of advice that I could share with all of you that has been the most beneficial was given to me back in my mid twenties.  Back before I was even thinking of marriage and having children I decided I wanted a career in law enforcement.  I was working a full time job and decided to attend a police academy at a local community college.  I kept my job while attending classes in the evenings and on weekends.  And even though I gave up on pursuing a career in law enforcement the training I received was without a doubt one of the best experiences I ever had.  We often had guest instructors, typically former or current police officers, which would come in and teach a certain module from the curriculum.  I will never forget this particular instructor who was very extroverted and had no apprehensions about giving his opinions.  He was a retired policeman and I remember him telling us stories of how he would go out of his way to intentionally antagonize any police officer who pulled him over for a traffic violation.  And while I would not recommend mimicking his behavior towards police, especially with cops now, it was very entertaining to hear his stories.  Anyway, he once gave all of us students a piece of advice and it has stuck with me to this day.  Don’t worry about the things you can’t change, and if you can change it then change it and stop fucking worrying about it.

It seems pretty simple doesn’t it?  If you can’t change something in your life that is causing you to worry then there is no point in worrying over it.  If you have the ability to alter the situation then do it.  Of course life never seems to work out this way and we always find ourselves stressing over matters which in turn creates more grief.  I’ve always done my best to apply this advice for the last 15 years but it never had quite the impact until I started learning and understanding the law of attraction.  If we are spending our lives worrying about matters we have no control over we ultimately keep ourselves aligned with a reality fraught with more of the same.  And we keep perpetuating a cycle of fret and stress that will plague our lives until we make the conscious choice to no longer be slaves in a reality we created for ourselves.

If there are burdens in your life causing you anxiety take a moment to ponder the advice that retired cop gave me 15 years ago.  If you have the ability to change the outcome then do yourself a favor and make a change and stop the madness of worrying yourself to death.  If you have no control over what is happening then consider that you do have control over how you feel about the situation.  By simply changing how we feel about one of life’s problems we can align with a new reality that we would much rather have.  Consider this, you are financially broke and are unable to find employment because of certain health problems.  You basically have two choices, you can either worry ten years off your life while attracting more financial disparity in your life or you can choose not to go down that road.  If you choose the latter you are maintaining a positive attitude that everything will work out.  You don’t let the collector’s calls and bills in the mail get to you, but you keep the right attitude and apply the principles of the law of attraction.  And believe me; you are much better off keeping the optimistic mind set and feelings of joy because the love and creative force of God will never fail you.

We can each create the reality we choose it’s just a matter of aligning ourselves with the life we want.  It all starts with a simple decision of how we react to all of those little and big problems life throws at us.  It is my 40th birthday and I could have easily chosen to feel depressed because I’m getting older and haven’t yet attained my ultimate goal.  However, I see this day as fortunate that I am still breathing and physically able to keep pursuing my dreams because I know those dreams are right around the corner.  So for my birthday I would like a gift from each of you, and that gift is that you do your best to stop worrying about things you have no control over and if you do have the power then make those changes.
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  1. Happy Birthday! I always appreciate your words of wisdom.


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  2. Happy Birthday Todd! I’m with that instructor. Stop worrying about crap you can’t change. And that includes your age… We can’t change the fact that we’re getting older in years, but that doesn’t mean we have to get old. In fact, I know a lot of people who seem to be getting younger – happier, sillier, more relaxed, more playful, letting less crap bother them, etc. You’re such a young-un yet, you still have tons of time to figure it all out. And even if you don’t, just have fun. :)

    Huge B-day hugs (I know, I’m a day late, but hugs are hugs!)

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  3. Justin Mazza says:

    Happy 40th Birthday Todd. Great advice you gave in this post. It’s true and makes sense but the mind likes or habitually worries about things that happen or might happen.

    I agree, focus on what we can control.

    From potential cop to controversial blogger. :)
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  4. D.E. Paine says:

    Well, happy birthday. Hope you’re weekend was a rewarding one. :)


  5. EleonoraEOF says:

    Way to go, Todd! Never be depressed about your birthday and your age….you are not getting older, only more mature and with more experience.
    I wish you a happy birthday and I am sorry to be one day late with my greetings.
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  6. veehcirra says:

    I know I am late. I do hope you had a great birthday. To be alive is a gift!
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  7. Love says:


    How wonderful life is now your in the world. You understand me better then you think. All I can say is it’s been an honor getting to know you. You have a peace which passes all understanding within you from God. My heart was full of joy the day you walked into my life.


  8. Happy belated birthday! I hope you had an awesome day man! I am half of your age excatly and I had an awesome birthday. I will never forget it! ( :

    We should never worry about the things in life that we have no control over. It is a waist of time and is pointless. Many times, people chase after a person that does not even like them. We cannot control how a person feels so why try to make them like us?

    This is off topic, but I was looking at the revolving map on your sidebar and that has to be the one of the coolest widgets ever! Are the red dots really showing you where your traffic is coming from?

    Anyways, wish you the best!

    God bless,
    William Veasley
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    • Hey William,

      Thanks for taking the time to comment. Is your birthday also on the 17th? If so, that is so cool. I think it is such a testament that someone from your generation displays such wisdom (no pun intended.)

      Yes, that revolver map shows the location of visitors to my blog, it is a free widget so if you ever get your blog it is a cool widget to have. Have a great week!
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  9. GelliAnnh says:

    Happy 40th Birthday Todd!I hope you will have more to come and cotinue to inspire a lot of people…


  10. Natalie says:

    I hope you had an enjoy birthday..Keep on sharing informative blog..


  11. Happy Birthday
    I enjoy reading here… all your good words..
    and from the 62 side, Hey it only gets better…no lie…!


  12. Clarice says:

    Happy 40th Birth-day my dear friend, cherish all the blessing and continue inspire all of us…


  13. Hi Todd! It’s a bit late, but like people said, better to be late than never at all. So, happy birthday to you!! Wishing you all the best. Hopefully, you can get more readers too, as I really enjoy reading your blogs.
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  14. Julie says:

    Happy birthday to You! Such a nice post, I really like your point on handle with the age. When I was 30 I felt really depressed, but now, I feel the same like you, I have to feel glad why I can breathe now, and all of my family are healthy and we’ve got somewhere to live.


  15. William says:

    Happy Birthday. I am a fan of your works.


  16. Danyelle Franciosa says:

    Happy Birthday to you! I got lots of advices and words of wisdom here in your blog and I am happy learn it here. I wish you more years to come in your life and stay happy!


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